So I got sent to the dean today for wearing this top. My study tech teacher said that I was “exploiting” myself and that it could be a distraction to the other students. I got up out of my seat and told her that I wasn’t going to listen to her dress codes. In a way, she was being misogynist and slut shaming and I think that’s wrong. I will continue to wear what I want and nobody can tell me not to. The fact that womens bodies are sexualized and objectified so much angers me and that’s the reason why this happened. I’m going to wear what I want, how I want, when I want and that’s it.
I was there, reblog the shit out of this guys
I’m a guy. I can’t wear a shirt like this either, even though I’m not going to be wearing a bra. it’s dress code. It’s not slut shaming. You can’t show your bra like that at most jobs. why should you at school? Yes sexism is wrong and all that, but you can’t get ‘angry at the patriarchy” because you can’t show your undergarments in public. I’m not going to wear jeans with a rip in the side or the front that show off my flowery boxers, because that’s just not appropriate for school. Have some professionalism. You can wear whatever you like at home or with your friends or whatever, yes, but school prepares you for real life.
At work you can’t have this attitude of “I wear the fuck ever I want.” and expect to keep your job. School is the same way because it’s trying to teach you that lesson. That’s unrealistic; almost any job you get is going to have someone tell you what to wear or what to do because you work for them and you represent their company. If you don’t look the way they need you to look, that makes them look bad. A tattoo parlor probably isn’t going to hire someone who dresses like a nun and a top company isn’t going to hire someone who comes to work in a tank top that shows off her bra or a guy that shows off his ballsack.
You can’t blame patriarchy for this, I’m sorry. You can’t blame sexism for this. If I wore booty shorts and you could almost see my balls through my semi transparent flowery goddamn boxers, I would get in the same amount of trouble as you, and it’s within good reason.
Here we see someone exposing a partial shot of their torso. too, we see the sexualization of said torso because it exposes a device that women are societally pressured to wear because—get this—it makes the parts of us that function as a food source to our children look aesthetically pleasing. Those of us who have breasts are told from the time that they show up, even in their adolescent stages, that breasts are secret, sacred, but also a resource to help us land a man.
You’re right. It’s not slut shaming. It’s misogyny. So is your comment.
The things that you’re comparing aren’t even on the same level. It’s hyperbolic to the extreme to compare your genitalia to breasts, which, by the by, are not sexual organs in the same sense that your cock and balls are. Oh, and as an aside? Your cock and your balls don’t really matter in this conversation. Yes, I said it. No, I’m not sorry. Your cock and your balls should not come up in a conversation about the patriarchal society’s need to sexualize women. It is dismissive and ignorant at best and insulting and harmful at worst.
If you were to show up to school wearing a muscle shirt, would you get written up and sent to the principal? I sincerely doubt it. Maybe on an off day. They would probably just tell you to change your shirt.
And this entire idea you have about work is… Just… I can’t.
Your working career, as a whole, does not depend nearly as much upon your personal clothing choices as it does upon your experience and capabilities in that field.
That being said, how would you know whether this person is going to lead a “traditional” work life or not? Perhaps they will be in school for several more years, and wish to enjoy the freedom of dress that comes with not being paid to “represent a company”(which, as previously stated, is not the reason you are paid; you’re paid to do your fucking job, not sit pretty.). Maybe they are planning on doing something that does not necessitate a strict dress code at all.
Who are you to say that this person should follow a set of arbitrary rules regarding one of the only freedoms of expression that we are allowed to have? (And that is hyperbole, friend, so now you can familiarize yourself with how it feels to be talked down to using it. Does it feel good to be infantilized? I didn’t think so.)
Also, schools do not regulate dress code to teach you the lesson of how to dress in the workforce. Schools regulate dress code because someone who donates money to the school has enough power and money to decide on arbitrary rules of propriety that are in accordance with their own personal moral code.
P.S. Anyone can get angry at anyone they want, just like I am angry at you right now, just as I’m sure this commentary will anger someone else.
P.P.S. xoxo fuck the patriarchy and fuck you xoxo
Reblogged for stupidity from killdrugs
And it’s also incredibly chauvinistic to start any paragraph with “I’m a guy” as though that gives you any sort of authority.
AND FURTHERMORE WHAT IS HIS PROBLEM WITH HER BRA BEING FLOWERY. WHY YOU GOTTA MOCK IT WITH FLOWERY BOXERS? I HOPE YOU HAVE MOTHERFUCKING FLOWERY BOXERS TO BACK UP YOUR MOTHERFUCKING SASS.